Navigating Love Addiction: Embracing Loneliness and Self-Discovery, Day 20

What if the love you're seeking is actually an escape from facing your own fears?" Join me as I share a personal journey through the complex emotions of love addiction and the surprising realization that loneliness can be an addiction in itself. Through candid storytelling, I reveal how romantic relationships were once my way of avoiding career challenges and personal growth. Discover how I learned to hold space for myself, acknowledging these feelings while embracing the courage to pursue my true desires and ambitions without relying on someone else to fill the void.

This episode invites you to reframe your understanding of relationships and self-care. Explore the empowering journey of becoming the captain of your own ship—navigating the rocky waters of life with confidence and sovereignty. We discuss the importance of integrating conflicting parts of oneself and mastering your destiny by finding safety and validation within. By recognizing your own patterns, you too can break free from avoidant behaviors and embrace the life you truly want to lead. Listen in for a transformative conversation that challenges conventional beliefs about love and independence.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Oh, fancy meeting you here. Okay, so if you are playing along on this orgasmic alchemical journey, let me know what your experience has been like and if you're not, go in the dialogue box below the description and download your free alchemical self-pleasure guide and let the pleasure wash over you and transform what is ready to transform in your life. So I did not self-pleasure yesterday. I completely forgot, because I was planning on coming home and doing that and then leaving again and I didn't go home because it didn't seem like there was enough time. And then I woke up this morning and I was like, oh, what happened? So that will have to happen twice today. Oh, no, um, so what is coming up?

Speaker 1: 1:04

Uh, I started writing this morning about, like what do I want to be talking about in the podcast and like, let's start at the beginning, right, um, and the beginning in my mind was love addiction, and so, as I was writing a little bit about that, I recalled recently that I I was having this moment in in one morning where I was like, just so upset about being single, upset about being single, and in my head was like, if I had this romantic partner, I wouldn't be feeling this way, and then it was like I wouldn't have to do these things that I am feeling resistant about doing towards my career. And that's insanity, right, like having a romantic partner doesn't mean I don't have to do the things that I have to do to create the result I desire. Create the result I desire, and I think that's what. But that's what I had been doing. I had been using romantic relationship as this avoidant addiction thing. I will pay attention to you and I will focus on you and I will help you so that I don't have to do all the things in my life that feel scary. That will actually create the success I desire. So, even though I'm not in that or any relationship at the moment, romantic relationship, right, we should, we should. Romantic relationship, right, we should, we should, you know, be more specific because you can be in relationship with so many different people and so many different things. So, in any case, semantics, um.

Speaker 1: 3:16

So I was recognizing that I was still using love addiction as as an avoidancy tactic, with there being nobody there, and I realized, as I was, as all of this was like sorting itself out in my head, um, that it was actually an addiction to loneliness. Right, I meant to actually make noise there, but this cedar allergy happening in Texas right now is, is it's having a large effect on my body, um, so the sound didn't even come out. That was funny. That one didn't even come out, that was funny. At least I'm breathing at the moment, so addicted to this, want to be with someone, and I think that the understanding of that, just the, the recognition changed it, shifted it. And you know, if there holding space for that piece of myself, I'm recognizing when that comes up, where I'm like, oh, if I had the partner, then everything would be okay, um, and I wouldn't have to do this vlog or whatever. And just being like, okay, I recognize that that is present for me right now and that's okay, that I feel that way and we're going to go do the thing.

Speaker 1: 5:41

So, holding space for both while they integrate, while this other piece of me is like oh, actually, it is safe for me to have the career that I want. It is safe for me to do the projects that I want to do. It is safe for me to be, you know, I want to say like master my own destiny, um. But as I've been talking about this acceptance for days now, I guess I'm not entirely sure that's the right phrase to use. So I'm, I don't know, maybe I'm at the wheel, I'm at the helm of the ship and trying to navigate it through the big rocky waters, something to that effect.

Speaker 1: 6:44

But in any case, knowing that I can be in the sovereign place that I would like to be, that that is safe, that it is safe to take care of myself, it is safe to. That's the thing. Take care of myself. I don't need to foster someone else's life so that they'll take care of me. It's interesting how I go between this hyper independence and avoidant attachment and love addiction, codependency. It's a real fun thing to navigate. So we'll talk lots more about all of that, but that's what's coming up, and you know if you are at a place in your life where you would like to start transforming your own love, addiction, codependency and transforming your attachment style to one of being secure. I am here to support you in that. I know a lot of things about it and I would love to help you, help yourself, and give you some magical tantric, shamanic energy healing, to let the divine support you as well. So that's that, and I will see you again tomorrow.

Speaker 2: 8:22

Thanks for listening to this episode of the good, the bad and the sexy. I hope that it served you in some way and if it did, please reach out to me on Instagram at the good, the bad and the sexy and tell me about it. Also, is there someone in your life who needs to get in on this conversation? I would love it if you would share the show with them. It's so much more fun to talk through these things together. Remember to get your free follow along. Orgasmic alchemy self-pleasure audio guide in the show notes below. I look forward to connecting with you again next time. Ciao for now, you.